Students seek marriage in lieu of education
Published: Tuesday, November 13, 2012
Updated: Tuesday, November 13, 2012 11:11
Getting an education and a degree that contribute to a career is the focus of many students at Utah State. For some, the goal is different — rather than seeking education as a means of independence and career opportunities, they see college as a means to acquire a spouse.
“I have never wanted to be a career woman,” said Kristen Bresee, whose husband is a USU student. “I don’t have goals in the academic or business world. I have more important goals at home rather than in the business world. Having a good relationship with my kids and family is more important than having a higher salary.”
Some feel the mentality of girls in Utah is to find a husband rather than planning out the rest of their lives.
“Girls, especially in Utah, come to find a husband and don’t really plan the rest of their life after that,” said Kaitlyn Rawlings, a sophomore majoring in elementary education and early childhood development.
Rawlings said she had a roommate whose goal in college was to become a mother rather than acquiring a degree.
“Being a mom isn’t the only thing, but girls could be limiting themselves and their future family if they don’t get their degree,” she said. “Lots of the time girls think that things will be easier and perfect after they are married, which is so scary, because so many things could happen. Your husband could get laid off, die or leave you. Then how are you supposed to take care of your children?”
Rawlings said she has experienced this first hand coming from a divorced family. She said were it not for her mother’s focus on education, her childhood circumstances and educational opportunities could have been negatively affected.
“If my mom didn’t have her degree, I would have suffered,” she said. “I don’t even think I would be able to go to college now if it wasn’t for her.”
According to Rawlings, knowledge and education are important aspects of rearing children and a balance between education and parenting should be sought.
“Everyone’s situation is so different,” she said. “You can’t say that one way is ultimately the right way. I think that extremes are what get to people. Being balanced in life is a good thing. You can’t be just a mom. If you get an education, you can end up using it just on raising your kids. Knowledge in that field helps you raise your kids. Parents shape how their kids are going to be. I think that if a person is planning on being a stay at home mom, a good field for them to go into would be FCHD.”